Thursday, December 15, 2011

The never ending pursuit!!!!

All of us want to be happy!!! People keep saying, you need to learn how to be "CONTENT" with what you have in life!! Does it ever work? I think its highly unlikely!
One of the most common and easily displayed human behaviour is to measure everything we have in life in relation to something else! I was once watching my 1 year old nephew playing with a toy!! He looked CONTENT with the toy he had in hand and was lost in his own world without a care if somebody was watching him. Did this last long? He screamed when I tried to take the toy from him and quietened down only after I let go off his toy! The peace only lasted till my niece walked into the room with a different and more colorful toy in her hand!! Out went the contentment and he started crying and screaming for the new toy!! This is how we are probably since birth or we probably learn this very young!!
So, this being how we are, how would it be possible to "Stay content with what we have"?? The point I have here is, We may try as much or claim and scream out to the world that "I am CONTENT with what I have". But, everytime we try to learn being content with what we have, life has its own unique ways of striking back at you!! It either takes away something from you and leaves you with lesser and struggling again, or, It goes ahead and gives something to somebody else which tips the scale over again!!!! This happens continiuosly till we are eventually left with NOTHING to survive!!! Its only when you learn to cope with and survive with NOTHING in life is that it starts to pay you back!!! It starts to compensate for all that its taken from you!!!!
Well!! Atleast this is my theory on how life works and I am hoping it comes true!! I have been on the path of losing something valuable everytime I was learning to stay content with what I had!! Ofcourse, haven't reached the stage of being left with NOTHING yet!!! Its a slow and long drawn process and I am willing to wait it out!!!
Kiran!

Wednesday, November 16, 2011

Forgive and Forget

We constantly keep hearing this phrase, "Forgive and Forget" and is probably a cliched one too. Are we actually capable of forgetting the past?

Will you ever be able to forget if you were severly wronged by a person??? I was or atleast I believe I was wronged by somebody. Over a period of time, i did forgive the person and don't hold a grudge against them. However, if the question is, would I want to be back with this person? The answer is a "NOOOO". I sometimes ask myself this question, "Have I actually forgiven and forgotten whatever was the past?", Yet again, the answer is a resounding "NO"

Why is it so Important for us to forgive people and why do we still remember the past? The only logical answer which I could think of is our "EGO". I haven't seen a single individual who doesn't like his/her ego being massaged. When I thought about the person who had wronged me, I knew for sure I was not hoping for this person to be a part of my life again. But, I was definitely hoping to come face to face with this person and the person apologising to me for having wronged me. I would feel good when I tell the person, "You are forgiven". Our EGO would get a boost when that happens, AND, we still continue to remember this afterwards as well. I guess most human beings love to reminiscence the part when they have done a good deed and feel good about it!!!!

Thursday, October 13, 2011

Ladakh Trip 2011

"Once we start working, after about 6 months, we will take 15 days break and plan a biking trip to Leh-Ladakh. " - A committment made by a bunch of biker friends in college just before the placement season started. High on confidence about placements and low on awareness on the grind of the corporate world!!!!
Aug/Sep 2011: "Abbe, October mein National alumni meet ke liye Pune Chale?" - The innocent question that started it all.. Reminded us that the trip planned in 2005 has been pending all these years!! Add to this the frustrations in the corporate world and the desperate need for a break started us off on the discussion about Leh-Ladakh.
Rahul sent out an email to the group involved in the original plan to check on responses to a new plan being made. 50% conversion only in the first screening round. Of 8 people involved, 4 gave excuses of work and backed out from the plan. Its only incidental that they are the married ones in the group. :):)
Stage 1: 3 confirmed and 1 tentative and the planning begins. Thanks to google god, details like the season for Leh-Ladakh, the ideal time to visit, etc, etc obtained in a matter of minutes. Basis other leave committments, work, etc the planned dates for the trip - 1st October 2011 - 8th October 2011.
Stage 2: The decision made on the dates, the next task on hand was to make the travel plans. The options were -
1. Drive down from Delhi and rent bikes locally in Leh
2. Ride bikes from Delhi
3. Drive till Manali and take bikes from Manali
4. Fly to Leh and then rent out bikes from Leh to cover the region
After a really long debate, the option chosen was to fly to Leh and rent bikes locally. In the interim, the "Tentative" converted to a "Declined". Resultantly the tickets for the 3 confirmed were booked and the trip well publicised.

10 days before the trip, the grind of the corporate world takes its toll and we have one more dropout. What would be a plan without a few setbacks and hiccups. To add drama to the whole exercice, my leave approval was pending till 4 days prior to the trip. Finally, the leave approval happened and the trip to go ahead as planned, but, with just 2 brave souls.

Lots of research on the internet and hearsay resulted in us boarding the flight from Leh with loads of warm clothing in hand. The trip had started and as the plane neared the Leh airport and the pilot announced the outside temperature - A pleasant 17 degrees!!!! The rest would be with pics.
Day 1 :
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This was the first view of Ladakh as we were approaching the landing strip!!

Landed in Leh!! Took a taxi to the main market of the city!! We were told that was the centre of the city!!! Finding a guest house was quite easy actually with boards popping up on whichever side you see advertising for places to stay!! We decided on one with a decent room and a very sweet family running it!!
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The two partners in crime in front of the guest house room!
Checked in, cleaned up and off we went again to the main market in search of our rides for the next 6 days!!! Into our little adventure we realised we may have pushed the dates of our trip a little too close to winter.. This was driven home when we realised that more than 50% of bike rentals had shut shop for the season and the ones who were renting out refused to give it after hearing about the places we had on our mind to visit!! One of them had awesome bikes to give but refused to let us take it far saying, "Barf girna shuru hogaya hai valley mein. Agar aap log vaha phas gaye tho hamare bikes bi phas jayenge aur humain trucks pe lana padega"
4 full hours into our search, we zeroed in on one guy who agreed to give us bikes from the next morning. 2 relatively new Pulsar 150s!! Must admit they were really good rides and got us out of couple of situations!!
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Our rides for the week!!!!

Day 2: We started with the bikes and the first road we hit had to be NH 1 connecting Leh-Srinagar-Delhi!!!
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One of the most awesome roads we have ridden our bikes on!!! Loved the highway!! The first place we hit was a place called Magnetic Hill.. The pic explains the name as well!!
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After testing the claim which we found did not work on our bikes with fibre body, we moved on to Sangam which is as the name suggests, meeting point of the rivers Indus and Zanskar!!!
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The 2 rivers can be distinctly identified in the pic as well!!
Further on, we covered Alchi monastery which was one of the oldest monasteries in the region!!! Though the monastery by itself is not in great shape, it is situated in a beautiful location!! Right on the banks of the river!!
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The monastery in the background!! And the 2 women we met who were from Holland and Sweden travelling together!!! Reminder to both of us how bad we are at interacting with pretty women!! More so when the women walk up to talk to us!! Can you believe it? We told them what work we do, but we didnt exchange names of email ID's. :):)

After a long day out in the sun and the dusty highway, we made our way back to the guest house in the evening!!The next day was going to be a big one with Chang La and Pangong Lake on the plan.

Day 3: A 7:00 AM start in that place was an awesome experience!! Not sure if it was foolish on our part or extremely smart to start so early!! But, by the time we had covered 30 kilometres, our hands were completely frozen inspite of the gloves and we stopped over for a breakfast of awesome parathas on the Manali highway!!
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This was one of the other stopovers on the way!! The awesome Thiksey Monastery!!
2 hours into the ride we realised it was not going to be an easy ride and we had clearly underestimated the travel time going purely by the distance in kms!! Chang-La at about 80 Kms from Leh took us almost 4 hours to reach!! The constant uphill climb was awesome and fortunately we had decent bikes which could handle it!!
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The first view of Chang-La (3rd Highest Motorable road in the world) from when we were about an hour away on the road!!
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Chang-La!!!!
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Another view from the pass!!
15 mins spent here, we started our onward journey to Pangong lake, considered to be one of the most beautiful lakes in the world!! It was an awesome ride though tough with the huge backpack on my back!! We had complete plans for our stay at the lake!!!
A 2 hour gruelling ride and the end result, we landed up at the place in this pic!! B.E.A.U.T.I.F.U.L was all we could say!!!
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The fame is well earned!!!
The water was so clear that you look down and you can see the bottom of the lake.. Almost like our swimming pool with a different colored base!!!
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Had awesome lunch of Roti, Subzi, Dal and Rice!! Would you belive it that they were having a buffet there!!!
As far as the expanse of the lake goes!! We covered about 6 kms in a straight line along the edge of the lake!! But, the end was nowhere in sight!! As per some claims, it ends in China!! I couldn't see the China border anywhere around!! :)

Done with all the fun and frolic at the lake, we decided to find out about places to stay!!! To our dismay, the camps on the banks of the lake had already shut for the season and only options were some places called "Home Stay" with the locals in their homes!! We went and saw some and we realised, the "Home Stay"s were small dinghy rooms with low ceiling, with windows boarded shut and only enough space to sleep and change!! We initially decided on one and after an hour of sitting outside, decided to go into the "Home Stay" to change!! Only then did we realise that both of us were feeling the oxygen levels to be quite low and we were panting for breath!! Initially I ignored it thinking my fitness levels were really low and hence i was panting!! :)
Post realising our conditions in that place, we evaluated our state and chances of survival incase something happens in the night and we have an emergency!! Realisation dawned that we were far, far away from any actual civilisation!! The 10 odd houses of locals there had nothing to help us!! We looked at our watch and re-eavaluated our plan!! The clock showed 3:50 PM and we thought we could make it back to Leh in time if we started right away!!!
We put the plan into action and the first step was to put on an extra layer of clothing!! Considering ourselves equipped, we stepped out and told the local that we had decided to ride back to Leh and his only expression was loud laughter with a gesture indicating "IMPOSSIBLE" with his head and hand!!!
So, there started one of our most adventorous ride!!! About 10 kms into the ride!! Since we were in total wild terrain with only tyre treads for road and no road signs anywhere, we realised we had erred and taken the wrong road!!! We were on a hill and the road we had to take was down below- a decline of 3-4 kms!! One look at the clock told us we had no time to go back and take the right road!! So, off we went down the hill on our bikes!! A complete off-roading adventure!! First thing when both of us realised we had made it safely to the bottom of the hill was stop and laugh out loud for about 5 mins!! And we were back on the road!!
That must have been one crazy ride we did!! On the highway we realised we were the last vehicle to leave Pangong and we did not cross any vehicle for about 25 kms!! Though we had doubts on whether we had made the right choice by deciding to ride back, we stuck to it and rode like maiacs on those hill roads!!!
As we approached Chang-La we realised the bike was struggling and had to be virtually pushed through on some steep inclines!!! We pushed on and were relieved only when we entered Leh city!! A journey which had taken us 6 hours onward was covered in 4 hours!!! One of the best and most unforgettable adventures of the trip!!!

Day 4: The adventure of the previous day had taken its toll and we slept like we hadn't slept in years!!! With the whole body hurting (Highlighting the lack of exercise in our day-to-day life), we decided to cover places of local interest!!! To our luck, we bumped into a team from Red-Bull which was planning an event at Khardungla!! Amazing equipment with a camera mounted on a remote controlled copter!! The way that copter was being flown around itself was a sight to watch!!!
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A view of Leh city from the Leh Palace!!!

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I wonder who would call this a palace!! :)

Day 5: It was time for the most awaited moment of our trip!! A trip to Khardung La - The highest motorable road in the world!!!! Off we went with extra layers of clothing!! 18,400 feet above sea level, it was going to be one hell of an experience!!! The brave souls that we were, we ignored a doctor friends advice to carry handy oxygen cylinders and decided to challenge nature and the oxygen levels there!! We did ensure that we stopped over very frequently on the way and had lots of water!!
AS we started our climb, we realised the term "ROAD" was not applicable and it was just a mountain path!!! Keeping us company on the road was a convoy of 16 Shaktimaan trucks of the Indian Army!!! As if the roads weren't bad enough already, our last 4 kms to the top also had snowfall happening!! We did have the crazy temptation to ride minus the helmets and catch some of the flakes on our tongues!! But, better sense prevailed and we rode on!!! :)

The feeling when we reached the top was just AWESOME!!!
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For the ones who can see it - Snow fall!!
To our surprise, army has a big setup there and additionally a canteen selling chai, bisuits and of course - MAGGI!! :):)
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THE MAGGI STORY!!! - At Khardung La

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KHARDUNG LA!!

Day 6: The last day in Leh and we had decided to while away time in the local market and buy stuff!! We were also motivated to eat lots!! We HAD to try out some of the local stuff like Yak cheese omletes, etc.. Though I must admit I couldn't make out any difference in taste!! :)
We also visited some places within City Limits like the Shanti stupa, etc.

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The huge Idol in the Stupa!!

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The Top of the Stupa!!

As the sun started to set, we were left thinking, "Is our vacation over already??". Needless to say it was one hell of a trip.. With lots of the regions like Kargil, Drass, etc still to be covered, we boarded our flight back to Delhi with only 1 thought - "Ladakh Trip - Part II has to happen real soon"!!!

For anybody planning a trip to the region, please reach out and will try to share whatever info we might have and that might be useful!! :)

Durgesh!!

Friday, July 1, 2011

The Fears We Live With

This was the headline for an article by Pritish Nandy in Bombay Times a few days back. A very interesting title though the article was not exactly on the lines that I was thinking. The article got me back to thinking about something which crosses my mind often - "Our Fears".
Is there anybody who doesn't have anything that they fear? I haven't met anybody that way though. At different stages of our life, we have different fears. But is fear always a bad thing? Not necessarily. Fear has its good things too.
As a kid, my biggest fear was facing parents when I had done something they wouldn't approve of. (Can't say that I am over it now. ;) ) Though, now I am confident of putting across my thoughts on things which I believe I am right and get their approval.
As you grow up, the fears you live with change as well. People constantly keep saying that "Death" is the biggest fear. But, is it always so? Maybe Death is one of worst fears we live with. But, it isn't always the fear of facing our own death. Most often it is the fear of "Life" when faced with the death of a loved one. This is true not just incase of death of a loved one. It happens when we lose a loved one from our life due to whatever reasons (Breakup, family disputes, etc) When we lose a loved one, we almost panic thinking how will we lead our life without the person being around. Though we overcome this over a period of time, most often with support from other loved ones, after this, we constantly fear losing another loved one.
For a lot of other people, FEAR is what drives them to perform and achieve what they have. The fear of failure or the fear of outcome of failure is so high that they put in the extra efforts to succeed.
Our fears do impact a lot of important decisions we take in life. Are the decisions always right? I wouldn't know. But, what I do know is we continue to live with some fears in life. Don't think it would possible to overcome all your fears and lead a life without fears.
But something which I think is essential is for us to recognise our fears and be aware. I am aware of somethings which I fear and I am willing to live with. Would I want to overcome them? Maybe yes. But will I be able to overcome all of them. Definitly not.
The phrase, "The Fears we live with" is something which is applicable to all of us.
Think about it and identify the fears that you are living with. Though you might not be able to get over it and lead a fear free life, atleast it would help you be better prepared when actually faced with that fear!!!!
Kiran!

Saturday, April 30, 2011

Most Difficult Sentence to say in any language!!!

I was generally browsing some websites and stumbled upon this site which had put up some words as the "Most Difficult Words to Pronounce in English". The words were outright scary.. The words had 30 letters+ each.. How could anyone think up a word with so many letters???? Phew!!!!
This also got my thought to an interesting question.. Which is the most difficult sentence to say? When I say "to say", I mean saying it to people who care for us and vice versa.. The only one i could think off which we really struggle to say most often is a very simple one. In English, the sentence has just 3 simple words and 8 letters in all.. But coming to think of it, probably the most difficult for any of us to utter to the ones who love and care for us.. Interestingly, the same words blurt out our mouth almost instantaneously and without a second thought to a lots of strangers all around us..
Why is it so difficult for most of us to say "I AM SORRY" to people who really love us ??? Even when we realise we have goofed up big time, we don't want to relent and say it.. However, We bump into someone on the streets and we automatically blurt this out..
Wonder what stops us from saying this to the people we care about and who care about us?? Is it that we take these people for granted and think we can get away with anything with them?? Is it our Ego?? or is it the fear that we won't be forgiven for what we did wrong??
I have known for 5 years that I need to apologise to someone, for whom I was extremely important, because of having done some things wrong.. But, till date I have been unable to say it and still can't make up my mind to utter these 3 simple words. It didn't take me long to realise I had not done it right and what my mistake was. Having known this, I just couldn't get myself to apologise to the person whom I had wronged.
Incidentally, when someone important to me was cross with me and I had no clue what I had done wrong, It didn't take me long to go down and ask for forgiveness for something which I might or might not have done wrong.
Don't know if I ever will find the answer to this question -Why? But, "I am sorry" would definitly be one of the most difficult sentence to utter in any language..
If I ever find an answer to this, I shall post that as well.. Until then I guess it will stay unanswered and I shall hesitate to say it!!!

Kiran!!!

Sunday, February 6, 2011

My Bucket List!!

I had watched and loved this movie "Dasvidaniya", which incidentally was the first movie I ever watched in a theatre alone.. Apparently a copy of an English film titled, "The Bucket List".. I watched this much later.. Though I liked this as well, I still loved the Bollywood version better..
I haven't reached any such stage in life yet which makes me feel "The END" is near. However, I wanted to create this list for sometime. A list of things which I would want to do or accomplish before I go out...
Ofcourse, I would keep adding more items to this list and updating the status as and when I feel I have done that task..
For a start, here we go...

1. Own a Merc (preferably SLS AMG ;) )
2. Go on a roadtrip alone with nothing to worry about
3. Apologise to some important people in life for somethings which I know I haven't done right

(Incidentally, I had penned these down and the same day saw Pritish Nandy mention about updating a bucket list on his twitter update)

4. Forgive some people whom I know haven't done things right.. (I hope my ego doesn't prevent me from being there for them when they need me).. *****DONE****
5. Become an entrepreneur and have my own business.. (not right now atleast.. Need the salary. And, no capital to invest ;))
6. Watch a Formula 1 race live (This was added to the list 15 years ago.. )*****DONE****

Ok.. These are as of now.. Will add more as and when the list grows.. After all, the human WANTS are a never ending list.. :)

KIRAN. :)